超我;

這個字可以解釋的方法有很多種;例如你大有可能有一天走到朗豪坊後面的砵蘭街,望一望海報上的仙樂都人體奧妙展覽廳的對聯,然後背面有個公仔佬搭一搭你的肩膊說:「超我囡囡!?」,再然後被打倒趴在砵甸乍街。所謂的超我就是這麼一回事,在黑社會行為心理學上來說。

然而有一個相反的說法。

在弗洛依德的理論中,「超我」乃是人格中的道德部份,形成它最大的因素是來自傳統社會價值觀的壓力和父母的教化。作用是使我們的行為不自覺地根據已接受的價值觀來判斷是非善惡,抑壓所謂不對的慾望和攻擊行為。

如果公仔佬有社會普遍性的超我,那位超人就理論上不會被打。

不過關於超我,個人認為粗口應該屬於有代表性之列。有一種說法,粗口往往是學習外語過程中最容易掌握的一部份,即是說像『MATRIX II』裡的高雅法國粗口就是法蘭西文化溝通的先發第一步。

學懂粗口,是六年級的事情。

在現代社會這可能算是晚成的經歷,終究我也在街上看過不少三四年級模樣的小朋友說得朗朗上口。而事實上我也並不賴,對著相熟朋友的時候能夠一句接一字,操得流利非常。

但是很超我的一回事,在別的場合例如現在、例如在親戚面前卻從來沒有溜過半句咀。不過倒真的見過某些人在超我的人格表現上明顯抑制力不足,活生生在別人的母親前說溜了類似攻擊你媽媽之類的格言。

粗口是一件頗性別歧視的語言,不論於用家或對象而言。首先很明顯地母親在這個範疇有著舉足輕重的地位,如果一切言語化為動作也真苦過弟弟。而且女性在使用有關粗口時的形象折扣分總是會比男人扣多數倍,原因不詳。

大概是因為女人說攻擊你母親又不夠說服力?若換轉說攻擊你爸爸則又顯得不夠「傷」,甚至在某程度上便宜了你父親。但是嘛,我們的粗口就是來來去去也只是源自於最基本的那個字。

的確,像黃子華說;我們的粗口永遠都只有一個動詞。而且也見不得有什麼方面的進步,小學生的粗口與維園阿伯的粗口在字眼上見不得有任何重大的差異。

那個字,真經得起時間考驗。

超我‧本我‧FUC。


 

超我‧本我‧FUC

未分類 | 13 則留言

13 則留言

  • Anonymous
    Reply

    我都很想知道為何
    “女性在使用有關粗口時的形象折扣分總是會比男人扣多數倍”

    不如你下次開個topic討論討論
    “不滿女性講粗口的十大理由”

  • Anonymous
    Reply

    Swear words are basically all about insults, body parts and sex. It’s quite immature in a way to swear, because it really degrade our body parts and the whole sex thing. Why should body parts and sex be taboo in most culture? And why should those things be ‘dirty’? Kinda like for adults to be embarrassed when other people mention anything to do with sex or private body parts. I was mentioning something about prostate cancer in a dinner party to an acquintance and he was so embarrassed. And I was thinking ‘chill out man, it’s just body part! I am not cracking a dirty joke or anything or trying to seduce him. ‘ And if I was, he’s an adult he should deal with it or stop talking to me if I make him feel uncomfortable with the topics I discussed, or simply verbally let me know he’s uncomfortable.

    Although I am firmly against swearing, I do want to point out the double standard people have for women who smoke or swear. Why should it be worse? I personally do think that women don’t look ‘good’ smoking because it seem to make them appear to be bad women, but why….I still don’t know. I admit I have double standard but I just don’t understand this bias. Anybody have any possible idea?

    Is it subversive for women to swear using male body parts to male, or is it just unconvincing unless these women make comments about a hetersexual male to have sexual intercourse with a homosexual male, or tell a homosexual male to have sexual intercourse with a woman to insult and provoke them?

    Swearing really don’t get us anywhere and causes more trouble than its’ worth. Though some people gain intimacy and communicate with swear words, eg, a group of people and they all swear and communicate that way. I just try to avoid it, because I am not used to it and personally I think it’s important to respect others and respect yourself. It’s okay if people swear in front of me, but yeah, it’s not exactly beautiful ‘music’ for me.

    And if people swear because they are angry, I reckon they should just get a punching bag and take all their aggression and frustration out. Afterall not everyone would bother hearing your complaints to this world’s injustice or a meaningless list of different names for body parts or a repetition of a degrading name for one body part. Maybe one day I would teach kids sex ed and abstinence as a possible option for kids who don’t wan to have sex yet like those abstinence program in America, and anger management ! Haha.

    What is sex ed like in HK? I was in a girl’s college in HK for a year, so I think I only got hardly any sex ed while I was in HK. NZ sex ed is only ‘okay’ I think, contraception and stuff, got taught how to put on a condom in 4th form, got force to watch a natural childbirth video in the same year (ouch, painful…) and the morning after pill…Maybe kids would continue to learn about sex in porn videos, internet porn sites, pornographic magazines and teenage magazines and by words of mouth and by real sexual experiences, but is it really the best society could do to help kids and inform kids? What about std, what about aids and unwanted pregnancies? And what about homosexualities, how should we inform kids about it and at the same time let them choose what they want by not trying to say whether it is right or wrong: not talking about anything certainly don’t help the matter.

  • derricktao
    Reply

    “不滿女性講粗口的十大理由”
    由女性如你發表會比較好
    免得我被女權份子攻擊耶 哈哈哈

    嘩! 大概是我有史以來最出篇的Comment!
    其實關於吸煙
    以前的黑色電煙的壞女人都會吸煙
    上電影課是有說到這有某些的像徵意義
    至於是什麼 猜一下吧 哈哈

    還有香港的性教育嗎?
    最近有幾個廣告我覺得蠻不錯啊
    有車上有個細路在細路A的爸爸前
    滔滔不絕地跟細路A說有關性的話題
    然後Slogan是
    “你唔同佢講, 大把人同佢講”

    邊個比人凶!?
    你超我弱? 咁個人咪好衝動..無良心law? 哈哈

    裡面D歇後語笑死我… 哈哈哈

    我有講心理學上既超我丫
    輕輕帶過
    因為我都只係輕輕睇過 呵!

  • o_oicy
    Reply

    該怎樣說呢
    有時候有些說話, 總是加些粗口比較生動同”應”

    但本人基本上不說粗口的 ;-P

    e.g.你好煩

    你真係好煩

    你好X煩

  • derricktao
    Reply

    我剛剛諗起
    我偶像你偶公金城武都係天秤座wor 哈哈

    屌這一個字原本是粗口嗎?
    我以前倒經常看到周杰倫說什麼很屌 呵

    但是嘛
    我發現好似有不少舞台劇
    都喜歡使用粗口取悅觀眾

    你好煩

    你好X煩
    我怎樣也覺得後者比較順口 哈哈哈

  • Anonymous
    Reply

    I am not surprise that I broke your record of the longest post. I am just ‘talkative’ haha. Oh yeah, I get what you mean that smoking has certain 像徵意義.Pop psychologists say lipstick is the same, anything with that shape anyway. However it all reminds me of the scandal of Bill Cliton and cigar and Monica.World famous scandal.

    The ad you mentioned sounds quite cool, cool slogan too.I guess I would find out about hk’s sex ed once I come back early next year, and even more so if I really am gonna look for a teaching job in high school.

    How do you find film studies lectures? I didn’t take film because I didn’t want to stay afterhour watching movies over and over again to analyse them.(I am just lazy, haha) What is it that you are studying, media, media study or film? Most people I know who do media combine it with journalism, is it similar in HK? When I did a paper in media last year, I watched cilps from Paris Hilton’s reality tv show ‘Simple life’ and we analysed ads and talk about target audiences etc. What is uni like in hk? Are your text books in english? (with exception in Chinese and Chinese history and stuff right?) Are there any fine art school in any HK uni? Over here we can go to any undergrad lectures, even if we haven’t paid for it. Attendence is only marked in tutorials and exams. They don’t care if you don’t turn up in undergrad classes.

  • derricktao
    Reply

    哈哈
    如果我能夠寫英文像你寫COMMENT一般流暢,就大概不用再擔心一個又一個的REPORT。

    我讀的是 Media Arts。但的確浸會大學的新聞傳播系應該是很出名的,不過有不少媒體藝術的課程都是獨立存在;像城市大學有創意媒體系。

    至於我的教材嘛,也有中文英文。哈哈,當然沒有中國歷史那類學啦,又不是中學生。

    至於FINE ART SCHOOL,香港藝術中心就有啦。

  • Anonymous
    Reply

    Cheers bro. I actually didn’t mean if you have to take Chinese history for your major, lol. I meant I was assuming that Chinese history is taught in Chinese at varsity, because hk is bilingual. Over here if there’s such a paper in Chinese history at my unversity’s history department, it would have to be taught in English because that’s the official language unless it is being offered as part of the Chinese language major, then part of the paper may be taught in Chinese with Chinese and English textbooks. Actually I made a mistake, NZ is bilingual too, our other official language is Maori, but at uni only Maori language papers are being taught in Maori. Thanks for answering my questions.

    All the best with all your reports and all your writings. I hope you will never experience writers’ block because they are down right nasty.

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